Bullying is a pattern of aggressive behaviour meant to hurt or cause discomfort to another person. Bullies always have more power than victims. Their power comes from physical size, strength, status, and support within the peer group.
There are lot’s of reasons to why people bully, some of the possibilities are:
- having family problems
- being bullied themselves
- being selfish or spoilt and always want to get their own way
- having no friends and feel lonely
- feeling bad about themselves and want to make other feel bad too
- taking out their own frustration on others
- feeling insecure and unimportant – bullying gives them power
- bullied into joining a bully gang and have gone along with things just to keep on the bully’s good side
What can you do if you are being bullied? What are some strategies?
Tell a friend what is happening. Ask him/her to help you. It will be harder for the bully to pick on you if you have a friend with you for support. Try to ignore the bullying or say ‘No’ really firmly, then turn and walk away. Remember, it’s very hard for the bully to go on bullying someone who won’t stand still to listen. Try not to show you’re upset or angry. Bullies love to get a reaction. If you can keep calm and hide your emotions, they might get bored and leave you alone.Don’t fight back, if you can help it. If you fight back, you could make the situation worse, get hurt or be blamed for starting the trouble.If you feel threatened, give the bullies what they want. Property can be replaced – you can’t. Try and avoid being alone in the places where you know the bully is likely to pick on you. This might mean changing your route to school, or only using the lavatories when other people are there. It’s not fair that you have to do this but it might put the bully off.
No one likes to be bullied. If you keep bulling it might come back to you. If bullying stops everyone can be happy wouldn’t that be better? Even you think you are not being mean to someone your words still could of hurt that person so think before you do something especially when you are in a bad mood.